Escape member Ailish @theglowgetter quit her job in Marketing to venture into the Beauty Industry and find out what she really wants to do. Here, she talks about quitting her job and the lessons she is learning along the way.
For the record, I am a super duper rubbish liar. My game breaker is that I laugh. I tell a lie and then I laugh. So when I answered that ‘…everything was fine’ in my job to my boss, I started to giggle and couldn’t stop. Needless to say, he saw straight through me and wanted to know what was going on. Then I officially quit. I had waited five years for this moment to come, and boy, they were a long five years at that. I’m off to temp in a spa for two months to help them launch their franchise, and then I’m not really sure what I’m going to do. All I know is that I want to be in the beauty industry and get more experience before I figure out whether my crazy ideas to set up a business in this area are worth a go or not. I trained as a Make-Up Artist whilst working full time and then as a Beauty Therapist, and haven’t taken a week’s holiday for three years due to using all my days getting experience and limiting risk through not quitting. But now is the time to take a leap of faith. I need to be in the industry to figure out if it’s something I really want to do and experience ‘warts and all’ to get a better picture.
It’s an exciting idea leaving your job, but having the balls to actually do it, leaves you pooping your pants. I don’t mind telling you I was close to having panic attacks for the two weeks after handing in my notice. When you have been living a life of ‘comfortable pain’ (comfortable pain = work that doesn’t really fulfil you, and you know you want to break free, but struggle to get the motivation to actually make a change) the concept of breaking free actually gets scarier and scarier. But you also have to be ready. If you’re not ready to make a change and take a risk, not knowing what’s going to happen and start accepting that you are ok being in an ‘uncomfortable’ situation, then don’t do it. Don’t beat yourself up over it though either. I wanted to give up my job for five years but just wasn’t ready to accept the unknown like I am now. Nothing had really changed and there weren’t any life defining moments that prompted me to jump into the deep end. I’m just learning to take a deep breath, be happy with right now, and trust that it will all work out.
So, what have I learnt since throwing down my quit bomb?
1). The company you’re working for can screw you over with your final pay packet so have some pennies saved.
2). Your mindset has a lot do with whether you view your ‘new blank sheet of paper’ life as an exciting adventure, or one of the scariest things in the world.
3). Everyone is so caught up in their own lives (or trying to apply for your job once you’re gone), no one really gives a damn what you do, so do what you want to anyway.
4). It’s your life. Only you can choose how to experience it.
5). Read this book. The Charge by Brendon Burchard. It helps.
You might think that there are a load of external factors not allowing you to fulfil your dreams, find the right girl or guy, and be happy, but the somewhat painful truth is, your life is how you have chosen it to be. If you’re not happy, then only you can make the change. Take some small steps now that your future self will thank you for. Growing up in an Irish Catholic family, there is a lot of talk about death (my bro will testify to this). It gets you thinking about life and what you want your story to be. A good desk worker who had lots of ideas but never quite managed to get off her backside? Or a life adventurer, who loved deeply, chased her dreams and helped make the world a little better? Sometimes there isn’t that death of a loved one to jolt you into doing something radically different (which is lucky by the way). Sometimes, there is just that something inside you that screams ‘Don’t do it anymore!’ and you listen, and act on that inner guidance and your life changes.
I read somewhere ‘Even the biggest defeat beats the hell out of never trying’, so that’s what I’m going to do. Give the life I want a try. What are you going to do?